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Opinions about other people's opinions... (Marriage, not click bait) explanation to follow...

 Good afternoon from Finland! :)

SO, let's dive in the deep end immediately. (Because the title is NOT click bait.)

One thing really makes me upset. It is the worst when people say things like "you're going to get a hubby in Heaven", "You are worth of someone lovely in Heaven" and "When you are a good person here on Earth, you'll get a good hubby in Heaven. Think of all the dead soldiers..." 

OK. There is SO much wrong with those sentences, I don't know where to start.

First of all, if you are married and want to "comfort me" with such words, just DON'T. It doesn't help. It doesn't make me feel better, comforted or whatever. To me it sounds pretty conceded and pretentious, high and mighty, that you love playing God, here now on earth and think you know that I am not worth marriage during this life.

I know for a fact: You do not know everything so stop guessing.

It is none of your business. If you are happily married, good for you! I am thrilled you are happy. I just know for a fact, that you don't have the authority or power to see my future. So stop belittling me and patronizing me. I don't do it to you. If I did, you could point it out to me, thank you.

I am still reeling from my few experiences this past 1.5 years or so. My life changed thanks to one of my friends and it changed my life a lot. I have more JOY. I have more LOVE and appreciation for myself. I have self-confidence! I am a changed person! (Still woke though, through and through, always will be...)

You can bully me, tell me I am fat and old or whatever, but you do well to remember not to tell me I am not good enough to get married! That is not for you to decide, you to know or understand. It has nothing to do with you. So just close your mouth. Thank you! 

I sometimes feel sorry for the people who feel sorry for me. Ever think about that?

It must be tiring to look down upon people and telling them what they can't accomplish. Listen, I have an idea! Instead of saying all those clichés, try to celebrate my life, my accomplishments so far and my potential. Do not tell me what kind of man I should want or whom I would have a good match with, do not tell me to go online to chat with strangers or talk to that old man who is single. Just let me be. 

I do not do online dating, I do not prefer older men, or men my age. I do not go on blind dates. If you have known me for a long time, and NOW, after decades of knowing me, decide to like me SUDDENLY, just spare me and leave me alone.

I will not take any suggestions or hints who could be a "good man" for me. The guy I like, needs to see my worth and help me grow. I don't pretend to be anything I am not. I don't pretend to like whoever is in the same ward or something, NO. I have raised the bar very high. My standards are not low anymore. I do not understand why anyone should settle. I don't understand why I should settle. Did YOU settle? We are talking about ETERNITY here... 

This is one thing I get really upset and petty about. LOL.

My friend in the USA wrote in my missionary friend memory book:

"Remember always how great you are and keep your standards high..."

AMEN, bruh,

I am so grateful for my true friends. They are so nice. 

I know that when I am ready (and the time is soon), I will get married. I have a few things I am still learning. There are so many things to consider when preparing to marry. I haven't been married yet. I have not been ready.

More later! 

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